The Signs of DV (Domestic Violence) are Not Always Obvious
Sometimes, it may be happening right in front of you, but can hard to recognise. It doesn’t always leave visible bruises, and it’s not always obvious when control or manipulation starts creeping into your life. If you’re worried about how you’re being treated in your relationship, or you feel like something isn’t right, but can’t quite put your finger on it, you’re in the right place.
Understanding the different forms of domestic abuse and the signs of DV to look out for can help you gain clarity and take action to protect yourself, or a loved one.
Domestic Violence Takes Many Forms
Physical Abuse
When most people think of domestic abuse, physical harm is often the first thing that comes to mind. Physical abuse can involve hitting, slapping, pushing, or any kind of harm to your body.
Signs of DV to look for:
- Do you feel afraid of your partner or the perpetrator?
- Are you ever injured or physically grabbed or touched during arguments or conflicts?
- Does your partner control where you can go, or restrain you when you want to leave (or asks questions)?
Emotional or Psychological Abuse
This can be just as damaging as physical harm, often leaving scars on your self-esteem and confidence.
Signs of DV to look for:
- Are you constantly criticised, belittled, or blamed?
- Does your partner make you feel guilty for their actions?
- Do you feel isolated from friends or family, with restrictions on talking to, or seeing them?
Financial Abuse
Financial abuse happens when one person uses money to control or manipulate the other.
Signs of DV to look for:
- Do you have to ask permission to access money or make purchases?
- Are you prevented from working or earning your own income?
- Does your partner control all the finances in your household?
Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse involves being forced into sexual activities without your consent.
Signs of DV to look for:
- Do you feel pressured into sexual acts you’re uncomfortable with?
- Is your consent ignored or dismissed?
- Do you feel unsafe expressing your boundaries?
Digital Abuse
In today’s world, technology is often used as a tool for control.
Signs of DV to look for:
- Does your partner monitor your messages, emails, or social media accounts?
- Do they send you controlling or threatening texts?
- Are they tracking your location through apps or devices?
Recognising the Signs of DV
If you’re unsure whether your relationship is healthy, ask yourself these questions:
- Am I often afraid of my partner’s reactions?
- Do I feel trapped or unable to make decisions freely?
- Is my partner controlling my actions, relationships, or access to resources?
If you answered “YES” to any of these, you may be experiencing a form of DV.
What Should You Do Next?
1. Reach Out for Support
Talking to someone you trust, like a friend, family member, or professional, can make all the difference. Domestic abuse thrives in isolation, so breaking the silence is a powerful step. Call us if you’d like to talk.
2. Create a Safety Plan
Think about what you need to feel safe and make a plan. This could include having a safe place to go, keeping important documents ready, or connecting with support services.
3. Seek Professional Help
Our Psychologists can help you process your experiences and guide you towards healing and freedom. It’s a big step to talk to someone, but our psychologists will give you the steps and tools towards a better future.
Recognising abuse is a difficult first step, but you don’t have to face it alone. Help is available, and support is here – when you’re ready. If you’re in a situation that feels unsafe, taking the first step to seek help is the most important thing you can do.
Need Immediate Help?
- Call 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) for confidential advice.
- In emergencies, call 000.
You are worthy of safety, respect, and love. Take the step today—you deserve it.
